Attachment

Attachment

Form a Secure Attachment with Mother and a sizeable chunk of what you will need to feel secure is yours for the rest of your life. If you don’t experience attunenment with Mother, the world is a ruthless, scary, hostile place –a virtual life sentence without parole. Continue reading

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Gratitude and Stress

Just a Lot of Platitudes?

If you are into mindfulness, you can’t stray far from advice concerning gratitude. Continue reading

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We Are Not Our Brain

We Are Not Our Brain?

“By the time we become consciously aware of an experience, it has already been processed many times, activated memories, and initiated complex patterns of behavior.” Decisions are made by the brain at least one second before we consciously decide. We are duped into  believing we are making the decision. We are duped by our own brain. Continue reading

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Life-Altering Elexir

Life-Altering Elixir

Dale Chihuly Glass

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I’ve been writing in this blog about Open Focus, Attention Training Therapy (ATT), Metacognitive Therapy ( MCT ), Ki Breathing, and more. Though I have a master’s degree in psychology, I am not posting as an academic, certainly not from the point of view of a therapist.

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Mindlifting

Mindlifting is Body Building for the Mind.

Bad News: Life is one problem after another.

Good News: Problems offer opportunities to check whether you are caught up in a Mind Drama of thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Each problem offers the chance to observe triggers setting off Mind Drama. Not only observe; problems offer the opportunity of Mindlifting.

 

Mindlifting

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PTSD

PTSD Diagnosis

PTSD

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When I was a high school student, I was diagnosed with OCD. That was in the early to mid 1950s. PTSD diagnosis did not come about till 1980.

Labels like OCD, depressive, alcoholic, bipolar, mood disorder, and schizophrenia pigeonholed, but accomplished nothing resembling a cure. Powerful drugs left us in a stupor, killing motivation for anything but sleep. Continue reading

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Unconditional Self-Acceptance

I recently spent a couple of days with an old (literally and figuratively – we had not met for sixty years) friend and his wife. When afterwards he did not respond to emails, I wondered if, perhaps I had offended his wife. They dropped my wife and me at our house and his wife turned down an offer to come in for coffee (right after he had accepted the offer and was about to come inside). Continue reading

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Metacognitive Therapy

Conquering the Voice Within

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Not only was psychoanalysis ineffective, it trapped me in a bizarre, introspective maze. OCD came on full force during the weekly, often twice weekly sessions.  After a few months, I forgot the reason I came to the psychiatrist and was explaining endlessly about “my Oedipal feelings.” Continue reading

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Priming

Priming the Pumpers (the weight lifters)

When I was around twenty years old I lifted weights at the downtown Newark, N.J. YMCA. Occasionally my friend and I would ask one of the big body builders whether he was ill or had been ill. We were downstairs in the rather small weight room every weekday night and knew the routines of all of the weightlifters. We knew how much they pressed, bench pressed, squatted, curled, and how long they worked out each evening. So we had a fair idea of how we affected our target and had a laugh afterwards if our “suggestions” took effect. Continue reading

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Enlightenment

Though I am Jewish, I used to be envious of people who believed in Christ and could surrender their angst to him. I was not religious and was full of angst. So I could never have imagined experiencing bodhi, an enlightenment or awakening. Continue reading

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